Just had a barby with a few mates and their childre ranging form 3 to 7. my friends child who is four took a wee and apooh on my grass and his parents found it quite amusing. After that he took a chunk out of a little boys hand then spat on him. His parents just said to him that its naughty and that was that!!! Is it me or do you think he should of just took their child to the toilet?? and give him the rounds of the table for spitting and biting? I think its distgusting and i just hope my child doesn’t pick up this behaviour!
and of course took him straight to bed?
If my daughter who is 3 did that I would be mortified… hell, if my son who is nearly 2 did that I would be too… Some people just don’t seem to have a clue about discipline and children, I agree that they didn’t react enough to this bad behaviour but you have to think… they are responsible for this child’s behaviour so it can’t be the first time he has acted like this.
Your child won’t pick this up, because if they try to do any of those things you will tell him/her that it’s wrong and they will learn that you are right and that other child most certainly isn’t.
October 31st, 2009 at 12:25 pm
His parents are raising a monster! He will probably end up as a major loser, blaming all his problems on others and taking no responsibility for anything! If that had been my kid, I’d have whipped his ass and took him straight home.
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October 31st, 2009 at 12:45 pm
If my daughter who is 3 did that I would be mortified… hell, if my son who is nearly 2 did that I would be too… Some people just don’t seem to have a clue about discipline and children, I agree that they didn’t react enough to this bad behaviour but you have to think… they are responsible for this child’s behaviour so it can’t be the first time he has acted like this.
Your child won’t pick this up, because if they try to do any of those things you will tell him/her that it’s wrong and they will learn that you are right and that other child most certainly isn’t.
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October 31st, 2009 at 1:27 pm
I think that is realy bad of the parents to have let him away with that – what does he think he will be allowed away with when he is a teenager – you do have to look at the point that its not the boys fault for the way he is its his parents – dont invite them back !!!!!!!!!!!!
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October 31st, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Would his parents find it amusing if he were 15? They are just slackers, they can’t be bothered to take him to the loo and frankly, if they think the violence and spitting is ‘naughty’, they are acting out their hostility towards other people through their childs behaviour.
People usually do that with dogs. They blame the dog, but never quite seem to fix the problem.
These parents are behaving in an inappropriate way. Do they seem to break stuff while at your house? Their kid will when he’s older. Is their ‘freindship’ really going to be worth the aggro? I wouldn’t inviote them over again, use the violence as your reason. If they notice and ask if theres a problem, say your kids have a right not to be chewed in their own home.
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October 31st, 2009 at 2:23 pm
This is a tough one I just don’t understand parents that don’t discipline their children they aren’t doing them any favors. I think I would have to tell them that that behavior is just not OK with you especially hurting other children. If it comes to not having family get togethers with this couple so be it, you and your wife can still see them without the children around. Unfortunately sometimes this can lead to the breakup of a friendship, people are very touchy when it comes to their children, but for the safety of your child you my have to. Hope it goes well for you.
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October 31st, 2009 at 2:29 pm
THAT is SCARY!!that wee boy needs to be taught right now that that kind of behaviour is completely unacceptable!! Can you imagine what kind of child then adult he is going to turn into??? I would suggest that someone needs to give his parents a few pointers, and maybe remind them that they are resposible for this CHILD, not a DOG!! I wouldnt worry about your child picking up this behaviour, if you have taught him/her whats right and whats wrong, they will know this is sooooo very wrong!!
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Mum of much better bahaved 4yr old
October 31st, 2009 at 2:43 pm
I think that behaviour is out of order. My daughter is three and a half and wouldn’t dream of weeing or, even worse, pooing on someone’s garden! She can be quite naughty though, and whenever she scratches or hits someone else, she is always told off and put in ‘quiet time’, which means she has to sit in another part of the room, quietly, for three minutes (1 minute for every year of her age) and then I would make her say sorry afterwards. However it is very difficult when you have friends who have very different ideas of discipline to you. Maybe the little boy who weed etc in the garden wasn’t completely toilet trained. I think you would have to think very carefully about what, if anything, to say to the parents, as in my experience it can be a minefield trying to discuss other children’s behaviour with their parents, as they may get very defensive and feel you were being critical. However if you have children of about the same age sometimes you can get into a general discussion about parenting and can share ideas, that can be a good way to get your ideas across without seeming to criticise their discipline techniques.
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October 31st, 2009 at 3:13 pm
no at four he should know better .
I’ve 3 children and even if I was with mates the child would have been told off and the poo lifted and the child taken to the bathroom.
I’m just back from holiday and 2 boys ran about while the parents sat reading books it was a villa home holiday so we all sat outside while the kids played but these parents let the kids walk into other peoples homes and didn’t say boo .
We were ready for burning point we were telling their kids not to lift the 2 yr girl and telling their kids not to walk into our homes.
It all ended when one of the other parents drunk just went up and had a few words and the dad seemed to get the boys under control and it went peaceful again
But like yor mates you can get annoyed by what you think is punishment would you be writing a question if they went over the top and smacked the child asking was that abit harsh?
If i was telling my child off in the house im louder than if I was telling my child off in public.
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October 31st, 2009 at 3:52 pm
you did not say how old the boy was .
and they did to show him how to behave and its not a good idea to step in but speak to the parents alone and tell them that its wrong of their son to use the bathroom outside .
and the bitting was very not nice
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October 31st, 2009 at 4:22 pm
Yipes! I know one thing, I wouldn’t be inviting them over again, sounds like they are raising a bit of a heathen! That’s not good for the other children to witness either and if I were a guest, and heard of them being invited, I would probably stay home! Anyhow , I bet your other guest felt the same as you did and probably would agree with you if you chose not invite them back
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October 31st, 2009 at 5:07 pm
god i would have chucked him out the little brat whats the parents up to they need discipline
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October 31st, 2009 at 5:31 pm
I certainly wouldn’t blame the child, but his parents need a good leacture!
I would not invite them round and tell them why, if they never speak to you again, what’s the loss?!!!
Just feel sorry for the child being ‘brought up’ with such parents.
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October 31st, 2009 at 6:09 pm
i honestly think this is gross and disrespectful, i dont honestly think your child will do it as long as they are taught not to.
Many parents are unsure of how to disipline their child and then dont bother because their are so many laws protecting the sed child eg from getting smacked.
however you are right parent should disipline their children so they dont do things like this, and if it were my child i would of taken then indoors and given them a good telling off. so that they know that what they did is wrong and would nevert repeat it again
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October 31st, 2009 at 6:39 pm
Its not you she shld have punished the child. Its better you make it known to her, her childrens behaviour. Say it in a gentle way cos no woman want to be told how to raise her children. If not your children might take after that attitude.
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October 31st, 2009 at 6:51 pm
blimey, they sound like shit parents, i have 4 children, ranging from 18,10,5, those 3 are girls and my son 17 months, and no way on hells earth would i let any of my kids, do there buisiness in a m8s or even anybodys garden, theres a toilet for that, and as for biting, id bite them back not so hard obviously but it soon makes em stop doing it,and a smack and sent to bed, opps i forgot not aloud to smack our kids now are we, this is why theres no many unruley kids about.
never did me any harm as a kid, its not as if your gonner bounce them of the wall is it.
children need to know whose the boss and its not them,although they would like to think so.
christ id go ballistic if that was my bbq and someone kids done that, id chuck em out of my house.
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October 31st, 2009 at 7:27 pm
his parents were wrong for not punishing him, this boy should have been told off for this type of behaviour. Would they have let him do it if it was in their house? i dont think so!! this is absoloutley disgusting. he should have been told to go to the toilet. He is obviously not trained enough to go without a nappy!!
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October 31st, 2009 at 8:15 pm
i am sorry to hear that ur friends have such a lax attitude to parenting, wich in turn can make u look like an ogre for trying to instill good morals and values into ur child. I have a similiar situation, but decided that if my child or another child missbehaves in my house its my rules and i will demand that that child behaves in my house or they are not welcome. i know that sounds harsh but i am dealling with 3 and 4 year olds and the naughty corner is a very effective action, i have been using it since my daughter was 18 mnths or so and its an effective deterant. good luck
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